3 Ways To Stay Calm In An Argument At Work
Take slow deep breaths: Next time your boss is screaming at you and you feel the rising temperature of your blood, try this fast and super effective technique. Take at least five deep breaths without saying a word to him/her. These deep breaths will immediately bring your boiling blood back to normal and you will feel calmer.
Take another five deep breaths and look at your boss. Your face will appear calm as you look at him and this will start having a calming effect on your boss/colleague too. What a simple, fast and handy technique and the best thing is, it always works!
Take a break: If you are in a heated argument with your boss or a colleague and you feel you are losing your calm, the best thing is to take a break. Tell the colleague/boss: 'I understand what you are saying and I will discuss this but just give me 30 minutes or an hour to come back and discuss this'.
As you take a break from the situation you and the other person in the argument will lose the steam and the heat and when you come back to discuss it later, both of you will be in a more receptive situation to listen to the other person and find a solution, rather than just pouncing on each other.
Skip Negative Words, Rephrase: While in an argument, we often tend to say 'You are wrong' or 'This approach is not good or not beneficial'. Rephrase these statements using positive words. For instance instead of 'You are wrong' say 'What you are saying is one perspective to the situation, can we look at this other perspective. This seems more appropriate in the current scenario.'
Similarly, instead of 'This approach is not good or not beneficial' you can say 'Is this approach the most beneficial or can we look at other approaches which can be more beneficial in this situation'. Be creative in using this technique!
Apply these simple and easy techniques and see how you will become the person who is calm during arguments and people will come running to you asking for tips. And the best thing is that you can also apply these techniques on your spouses and create the magic of calmness at home too.
The above article is contributed by Pallavi Srivastava, who has been working as a journalist in Print and online media for the last seven years. Since October 2012, she is working as a freelance writer. Writing is her passion and she is happy to pursue it as her career. You can find her on Twitter @pall_sriv