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3 Ways to Avoid Letting Mood Swings Ruin Your Relationship
Psychology

3 Ways to Avoid Letting Mood Swings Ruin Your Relationship

It's unfair to expect anyone to be perennially happy. You respond, you react, you may feel joyous one moment and angry another. It is perfectly fine to go through varied emotions, unless it is so extreme that it needs clinical attention.

"Mood swings that aren't linked to a specific disorder. They generally come and go as a natural part of a person's life, or might be a part of a person's personality. A mood swing is simply a noticeable change in one's mood or emotional state. Everybody has mood swings and they are a natural part of most people's lives. We get happy, we get sad. We have a period of feeling on top of the world, and then later in the same day, we feel tired, lethargic and beaten down. Small mood swings are a part of most people's lives," says John M. Grohol in Psych Central .

However, a mood swing can sometimes come in the way of your relationships, with your spouse, partner, colleague, parents and friends. The hurtful things you say can stay with the other person, even if he or she understands you.

Understand the trigger
"The best way you can identify your own mood swing triggers is to keep on the lookout for times when you've noticed your mood has changed significantly from what it was earlier in the day, and trace back your steps about what food, drinks or activities you may have engaged in," says Grahol. First few months, try to write down the occasions when you snap at people or feel sad. Then try to understand the pattern. Once you have a clear picture of what makes you sad or angry, you can work on it or stay away from them.

(Also read : Journaling, the best way to calm down when angry)

Convey that you are in a bad mood
Everyone gets angry or sad, so it is fine to tell people that you are upset or angry. What is wrong is to snap at people for no reason. If you tell them that you are not in a good frame of mind, they will understand and give you the space and time required. Imagine, what will you do if your friend gets angry and shouts? You might feel annoyed or upset about your friend's behaviour, right? However, if your friend asks for some time till he or she settles a bit, you will simply walk away and give that person some time to cool down. Everybody empathises with such emotions.

Practice to fake a smile
Faking a smile can immediately change your mood. A fake smile or laugh works as well as the real thing. The brain doesn't differentiate between real or fake as it interprets the positioning of the facial muscles in the same way. The more you stimulate your brain to release endorphins, which are responsible for making you feel happy, the more often you feel happier and relaxed.

Called the positive feedback loop of smiling, a simple smile can alter your brain's emotional processing. You smile when your brain feels happy. It tells your facial muscle to contract and triggers a smile. Just like that, when you fake a smile, the smiling muscle contracts sending a signal to the brain, which will increase the level of happy hormones.

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