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Respond Better to Criticism with These Two Lists

Thorin Klosowski , Gizmodo Media

Respond Better to Criticism with These Two Lists

Getting feedback on yourself or a project is always a little tough no matter how thick your skin is. If you find yourself constantly on the defensive when people offer you that constructive feedback, Barking Up the Wrong Tree suggests you create two lists to differentiate between the type of feedback you're getting.

When we're criticized tend to ignore the criticism and immediately jump on the defensive to prove a person wrong, but it's actually pretty easy to change that. When you do, you can actually gain something from those conversation and get better at whatever you're doing wrong. Barking Up the Wrong Tree suggests breaking it all down into two lists:

So make two lists: One is things they're wrong about. And one is things that, well, they might be right about.

Next time you get feedback, make three columns:

  1. What they said
  2. What's "wrong" with the feedback
  3. What might be right

This lets you vent your frustration in column 2 but column 3 makes sure you don't lose the value of what they're saying.

Hopefully, the two lists will make it so you can filter through those criticisms and actually improve your faults. Head over to Barking Up the Wrong Tree for a bunch more tips about responding better to criticism.

How You Can Turn a Performance Review Into a Great Learning Experience | Barking Up the Wrong Tree

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