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How to Deal With Compulsive Liars Without Framing Them
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How to Deal With Compulsive Liars Without Framing Them

Sometimes you lie to avoid conflict, sometimes to hide your mistakes. However, there are some people who lie without a reason. They are the compulsive liars.

"Pathological lying (also called pseudologia fantastica and mythomania) is a behavior of habitual or compulsive lying. It was first described in the medical literature in 1891 by Anton Delbrueck. Although it is a controversial topic, pathological lying has been defined as falsification entirely disproportionate to any discernible end in view, may be extensive and very complicated, and may manifest over a period of years or even a lifetime," Wikipedia defines.

Compulsive liars create stories and narrate the same for years, with so much dedication that after some years they themselves cannot forget if it is a reality or a fantasy. In the beginning though, they know exactly what they are doing and they do it for reasons others don't.

They lie to make their lives seem more exciting, as they believe that their real lives are too boring for others.
They lie to dominate over others.
They lie to gain popularity by bragging.
They lie to overcome their insecurities.

At a professional level, little lying would only make the person a no-conflict diplomatic employee. However, when it comes to relationships, lying can turn disastrous. Especially, when it becomes a habit. So, instead of walking out of it or confronting such people every now and then, this is what you can do.

1. Don't frame them as liars. In most probability, they are living their lie and not even aware that they have actually been lying.

2. Reassure them that even if they say that they are lying, you would still show the same love and respect.

3. Explain that it is hurtful to you when they lie. Rather you prefer being trusted with facts. Tell them you would always be supportive of them.

4. Don't expect them to accept the lie. They would always try to defend themselves.

5. Keep an eye for other personality disorders like bipolar disorder.

6. Explain them the consequences of lying. Share instances people who have lied and suffered.

7. Lastly, if you feel it is getting out of hand, seek help instead of walking out of it.

(Also read: Kill The 'Me Me' In You To Achieve Better Professional Growth )

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