Don't Make Small Talk: Ask Questions Instead
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Last night I was watching TV with my kids and got caught up in
Good Luck Charlie, a silly PG sitcom. In last night's episode, 10 year old Gabe asks his mom how to talk to a girl he likes. He was so concerned about what he was going to say, he couldn't put his words together when talking with the girl. In the mom's infinite wisdom, she eventually suggested he try to learn about her, "ask her questions and see if you have anything in common." After this advice, he asked the girl good open ended questions. "Tell me about your family" and followed that up with "tell me more!". This is the short summary, and to be honest, I didn't make it to the end of the show, so I am not sure how this ended up.
Finding something in common with someone can instantly start a great conversation. It isn't about spewing information about yourself or being witty. Let the other person do the speaking. This is about being a good listener.
Obviously, this has networking and interviewing application. Not just in job search, but in managing your future. Building relationships along the way is the best employment
insuranceyou can have!
There's more utility here than you might think-sure, it might seem like common sense that the best way to actually converse with people is to find a common interest and talk about that, but as someone who's easily drained in large groups, I find that I'm happier listening to the stories that other people tell than I am talking about myself. Once the conversation really gets going, then I may jump in and engage, but you can learn a lot about someone just by being genuine and interested in what they have to say-and people will appreciate you for it.
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