How to Get Around OkCupid's Stupid New 'Real Name' Policy
This new policy has a lot of OkCupid users pretty miffed, and for a fairly good reason. Other dating platforms, like Tinder and Bumble, ask that you use your real name by logging in through Facebook, but that's the reason a lot of people choose to use OkCupid in the first place. They want the ability to learn more about potential dates through in-depth profiles and messages before handing over any real personal information. And users don't want their answers to intimate questions available for all to see. Now, to be fair, OkCupid isn't asking you to give out your full legal name :
"...with this change, we won't be collecting full names; instead, we encourage our users to go by the name they'd like their dates to call them on OkCupid."
Still, a real first name and the city you live in is plenty to go on this day and age. You could probably find somebody, or at least their social media pages, with that small amount of information. And this can be especially dangerous for marginalized people (or anyone who doesn't want their gender or sexual/relationship preferences public), opening them up to harassment elsewhere.
So, what is a privacy-seeking single person supposed to do? Lie . Make up a name for your profile. It can be any name, but keep a couple things in mind while you decide on a dating pseudonym:
Make sure it sounds like a real first name (OkCupid is on the lookout for people still trying to go by "xBlazeLoveMagnetx" or whatever).
An OkCupid spokesperson told Gizmodo
that the new usernames require at least two letters, and must have no numbers, no symbols, and no emojis.
Make sure it's not a variation of your actual name, or your real nickname that you go by regularly. OkCupid is encouraging people to use nicknames if they want (like Liz instead of Elizabeth), but that's not going to cut it when it comes to your
If things feel good with someone, then you can reveal your real name via text message or something. This tactic should work just fine until OkCupid finds some way to require name verification. At least the other change OkCupid recently made is a bit more welcome: you'll both have to like each other before being able to message one another, a la Tinder. That should help cut back on all those "hey" messages you get from random weirdos with bad selfies.