7 Hacks To Be An Optimist
We all know that it is wonderful to be positive and happy at all times. After all, none of us like to be in grumpy, complaining, and sad company. Also, numerous studies, columns, and expert opinions on the subject have made sure that we're quite aware of knowing the umpteen benefits that come with being optimistic. Despite this, the fact of the matter is that most people in this world struggle to maintain a positive viewpoint.
However, the work is worth the results. Global studies show that positive people are among the happiest, healthiest, and the most content lot that could be found. They're also like to be more successful in work and life as compared to the rest.
Here, we have put together some secrets of optimistic people. Keeping these in mind can help you maintain a positive outlook even in trying times that test all your patience.
Focusing on the brighter side of a given issue
Every situation will have two sides to it - one favorable, one not quite desirable. Optimists, when confronted with something that cannot be prevented or circumvented, are the people who immediately shift their focus to glean out all that's good about it. This helps them make the best of the situation - with the results, sometimes, turning out to be even better than what would have come otherwise.
This attitude also helps them steer clear of the negativity and stagnation associated with the 'I wish', 'What if?', 'Why me?' kind of thoughts that only serve the purpose of draining you out and wasting valuable time.
Surrounding yourself with positive vibes
Optimists learn one lesson early on - the more positive your surroundings and companions, the more positive will your own outlook be towards life and its challenges. However, this is not completely in our hands. We can't decide for the people around us. They have to make their own choices. However, what can be done is to slowly and steadily limit contact with those who bog you down every time they speak to you. If the relationship is important, don't cut off all contact but do take care to limit your conversations and the time spent with such people. Also, take care not to share anything of consequence with them - focus on small talk.
Make your home space and work zone the kind that cheer you up. Use the colors that brighten up your mood, decorate with arts that attracts you - wall hangings, paintings, pottery, etc. Ensure adequate ventilation and keep some indoor plants too.
Dreaming big and generously
Don't shrink your thoughts. Eternal optimist is the person who knows that only when you dream big can you achieve something that's worthwhile. If you've set your goals small, you've limited the scope of your life.
Also, make a daily habit of reinforcing your dreams to yourself. There are several ways to do so - daily writing down your goals in a diary, waking up and taking the first few minutes to think about your dream with closed eyes, jotting down your goals in post-it notes and sticking them where you can see them several times a day, etc.
Being passionate about all that you do
For optimists, work is more than just the paycheck that comes in at the end of the month. It is also an opportunity to learn, grow, and do better. If you have to drag yourself to work every day, if you keep looking at your watch towards the close of the work day, if you find yourself endlessly bitching about what's not right at your work place - ask yourself if this is where you want to be? Should you be moving on? Never stay at place and crib incessantly about it. Love what you do because that is what'll take you places.
Extend this to include all the chores that you complete during the course of a day. For example, if you find yourself dusting your house half-heartedly, dump the duster - take a break from house cleaning that day. Start the work when you really want to do it with energy and vigor.
Practicing mindfulness at all times
Optimists don't revise their past constantly. Nor do they make castles in the air of the future. They are happy because they are realistic. And realists stay in the present. They know that the only time that matters is the present. It's the only time when you have any real power to do anything.
Maintaining a journal of all that's good in your life
Most people tend to ignore all their blessings and keep looking at what's missing from their lives. A strong step towards optimism could be maintaining a journal of all that's good about your life - your personal relations, financial stability, the work that you do, your health, and more. Make a habit of leafing through this journal on a regular basis.
Learning to accept failures as inevitable steps towards success
Finally, optimists learn to accept failures for what they are - part and parcel of life, must-haves for future success, learning opportunities, bitter medicine: tough to swallow and yet necessary for good health. Choose whichever description you like but remember not to get bogged down the next time you fail.