What to Do When Your Kid's Homework Is Too Hard
There's no shame in turning to others to help your kid understand their homework. Forcing yourself to try to help them when you're not equipped can lead to frustration for you and your child. Using the resources you have available takes the pressure off everyone and helps your kid learn the material.
Work With the School
Don't be embarrassed to reach out to your child's teacher. More than likely, they want your kid to succeed in their class and can point you towards legit online resources or refresh you on the concepts your kid is
Check to see if your child's school offers programs they can attend after class is over, perhaps a "homework club" or other group where teachers or volunteers provide guidance.
The National Education Association lays out how much time your child should generally be spending on homework:
10-20 minutes per night in the first grade, and an additional 10 minutes per grade level thereafter (e.g., 20 minutes for second grade, 120 minutes for twelfth). High school students may sometimes do more, depending on what classes they take.
If you feel your kid is spending too much time on homework, The New York Times suggests pushing back with your school directly. Reach out to your child's teacher directly or to the principal of the school. If you're able to bring other parents into the conversation, you'll have a stronger position to get homework reduced to a reasonable amount.
Find a Tutor
If you're unable to get help from your local school, or you child would benefit from direct one-on-one guidance, find a tutor. You have a few options for a dedicated tutor:
- Private part-time tutor : Someone who does tutoring part-time while they work another job or go to school. Your local college is a good place to find this kind of tutor.
Private full-time tutor
: Someone who tutors as their regular job, and often has a list of clients. Your friends or
familycan give you recommendations of this type of tutor.
- Tutoring service : A company that provides tutors to help your child with their homework or other academic skills. Yelp or your friends and family can help you find tutoring services in your area.
- The ability to measure and accurately diagnose strengths and areas of improvement rather than relying only on the student's report card or what the parent communicates.
- The ability to connect the areas of improvement with a step-by-step instructional plan to reach the intended result or goal.
- Success stories. Can the provider demonstrate with confidence their teaching effectiveness or the effectiveness of their curriculum through student examples?
- Individualized lesson plans based on the child's ability.
Finding support for your child with an ongoing tutor or tutoring service can help them achieve both short and long term goals. You can also continue to use the service during holiday or summer breaks to make the transition back to school easier.